ANGER;A PART OF FEAR

Yesterday, I saw something on TV that got
me so pissed off...

This narcissistic nut was ranting about how
rape victims are "weak" for letting
themselves be defeated when they are
attacked.

Now, any SANE person has to accept that
this is complete bullcrap.

But sadly, and I'm sure a lot of you reading
this letter will know, martial arts and self
defense is FULL of complete NUTS spouting
garbage like this!

As part of my training, I teach people how
to deal with insult and anger, and how to
come the realization that anger is just
another form of fear.

But I still cant help but get mad at people
saying stuff like that, its just a big fat
LIE.

Yes, these people are in fact lying to YOU
and THEMSELVES, and not just because they
are misinformed.

In an attack of any kind, you cant just
SWITCH OFF your emotions. Especially attacks
that have happened in the past, or bullying
that happened, that's really going to leave a
psychological mark on you.

The other reason these guys don't know what
they are talking about is that during an
attack, your mind AUTOMATICALLY blocks out the
most traumatic parts. Its almost like having
a safety valve on your memory, so the worst
parts don't affect you.

You have probably heard somebody at some point
say that you are WEAK, because you FREEZE or
PANIC when somebody threatens or attacks you.

Its not weakness, it's a REFLEX.

The important thing about reflexes is they
CANT BE CHANGED. Your body has natural
reflexes that happen UNCONSCIOUSLY, so why
should you try to retrain them? Don't forget
that you need adrenaline, it's a powerful drug
that your body controls, and it can save your
life.

The reason why a lot of people FREEZE on the
spot is because they are going into SHOCK.
Their minds are trying to BLOCK OUT the
traumatic experiences they have had, all those
bad memories of intimidation, fear and even
social rejection can surface in a self defense
situation.

The key to beating the FREEZING and PANIC is to
train at RANDOM. That doesn't mean your training
partner attacks you when you walk down the street,
but they might grab you at any time in any way
with extreme force.

Now that might not give you the exact same SHOCK
in a real fight, but that's not the point.

The point is you will be able to REVIEW what
happened. You cant REVIEW a traumatic experience
like rape, no matter what any of those morons say.
It just isn't practical.

But you can review less traumatic experiences,
like someone putting you in a head lock in a
training situation, or swinging wild random punches
at you. As long as you don't tell them what attack
is coming, and you start to remember your mistakes,
its GOOD training.

But what ever you do, don't beat yourself up about
the past. Especially when you hear those morons
talking about how they would have dealt with it.
These people usually don't get out enough to even
realize what trauma, intimidation or real violence
is.

Stay safe,